Now, you might be wondering what a book like The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life is doing on a blog about moving to Canada.
Simply put, it captures the attitude you need to take when it comes to worrying about what might be, has been or may be. It also applies when considering whose opinions you choose to care about. I’ve been reassessing that last one myself and learning some good life and career lessons along the way. It’s been quite transformative.
Often people never make the move to another country or do something in their lives because they’re worried about other people’s opinions, change and what if’s. When moving to another country you need to put those thoughts out of your head and take a leap of faith into the unknown.
And what if it doesn’t work out? Have you failed? No, you haven’t because you gave it a go. That’s part of life, that’s part of living. At any point you are a plane ride away, at most, from going back to where you came from. And if you end up having to go home you’ll have learned some great life lessons along the way so nothing is lost.
What really struck me about The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life was that it wasn’t about not caring about anything, it was about not caring about the things you can’t control and worrying about what might be.
A brilliant quote from the book that sums ups the meaning behind it:
“there is no such thing as not giving a single fuck. It’s impossible. We must all give a fuck about something. To not give a fuck about anything is still to give a fuck about something.”
Energy should be put into things you can control, into letting go of the past and focusing on the now and what you can control – your environment, your friends, removing toxic people from your life, spending time on self-development. The past has happened, leave it there and decide how you are going to live now. And along the way shit is going to happen that knocks you off course. You can’t control that but you can certainly control how you move on from it.
I was shocked by some of the examples given in the book because at first you read a story about something tragic happening to someone and you naturally feel empathy and understand how they can end up in a rut and feel negative, but then the author throws you a curve ball by saying that rut and negativity is their fault. My initial reaction was, ‘damn, that’s harsh’ but once you read the meaning behind that statement you quickly realise what is meant and it makes complete sense.
Having read the book I can’t recommend it enough. It’s a very easy and enlightening read. Get The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life today.